A man has slammed all men for ‘killing the attraction’ in their relationships by telling their partners they ‘don’t know’ where they want to go or what they want for dinner.
The question
Kevin, from Vancouver, claimed that answering the key question with ‘I don’t know’ every time snowballs into women feeling on edge and uncomfortable around their male significant others.
‘When your girlfriend asks where you want to go eat and you consistently say you don’t know and put it back on her to figure it out, you are killing the attraction and she’s probably not going to respect you over time,’ he said.
Kevin claimed that putting the onus of the decision on a woman puts her in her ‘masculine’ energy which is an ‘issue’.
‘You should be the one figuring out the problems and guiding her so that she can be in her feminine,’ he said.
How to make her tap into her feminine energy
‘Keeping her safe in her feminine looks like is suggesting three places to go eat and asking her how she feels about it,’ he said.
‘When you ask about her feelings, she’s able to tap into her feminine energy, figure out what she wants, and tell you.’
He said that letting a woman be in her feminine energy allows her to feel relaxed, safe, and comfortable.
‘She should know that you know how to solve problems and make decisions,’ Kevin said.
Masculine and feminine roles
Dating coach Jake Maddock claimed men and women slotting into their masculine and feminine roles will help them navigate their relationship efficiently.
Many women agreed with Kevin’s opinion and shared their own experiences.
Opinions
‘I have never been in my feminine energy and I’m 38,’ a woman said.
‘There’s nothing more exhausting than constantly making decisions,’ another added.
‘Deciding what’s for dinner, where we’re going, whether he wants to go, the ‘Well, do you want to?’, planning how and when because often times it won’t get done.
‘The mental load is tough. My husband thinks he’s the man of the house, but I do all the thinking, planning and execution. Tired of being masculine,’ a third said.
But others claimed the gendered approach was pandering to the patriarchy.
‘No, thank you. There is no such thing. We just want someone who participates and cares enough to think about it and we’ll make a decision together,’ one said.
‘I hate this feminine and masculine energy trend. I don’t need to be guided by a man,’ another wrote.
