3. Maximize The Difference That Ensues Between Your Children
Don’t compare your children, your style of parenting should differ from every child. You don’t compare a child that is easy going to a child that has street-like attitude; a child with street-like attitude should not be judged based on how the easy-going child is living their life. A parent should know how to attend to them emotionally in the language they understand, there is a way you should be able to help the child with street-like attitude to divert their energies in a constructive way.
When you compare a child, you criticize them and this could affect the child’s esteem. There should be equal distribution of parental care and affection to children is very germane to raising them, so that one of them will not feel entitled than the other. Don’t keep the secret of one into the hands of the other, don’t make one your favorite lest contempt breeds lest they lose it.
4. Trust Them With Responsibilities
What makes a child responsible is due to the responsibilities they undertake. There are some decisions you will have to leave for them to make, it is okay if they make mistakes, give room for mistakes. It is important that they can interpret life in their language; it helps them to think independently. Don’t always force your decisions on them until they become of a certain age, leave them to take their decisions knowing fully well that mistakes will happen.
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Just see yourself as a subject teacher in classroom, your child who is your student will need some assignments to take home that you may evaluate the progress they have made over the years. Just remember not to be judgmental if there is need for you to do some corrections to the life assignments you subjected them. There is a place for theory (the words and counsels you give) and there is a place for practical (field practice). Let them get in the act, this will help them to grow faster and become more responsible.
5. Create A Family Culture
In every home, there should be a policy, and you have to be consistent with the policy. Create a culture with your husband/wife for your family, it will be your legacy; your children will grow into this culture and the culture will live on even when you are no longer together. Give them a foundation that they may have something to build on.
