Popular relationship
coach, Solomon Buchi who has been in the news for some days now has
drawn the attention of the American talk show, ‘The View’.
Buchi had stirred reactions
after he said that his fiancee, Arike Adeola is not the most beautiful or
intelligent woman but he finds perfection in her.
He had written: “You’re not
the most beautiful woman; neither are you the most intelligent woman, but like
I’ve chosen to never find perfection in anyone else. I put my gaze on you, and
with that commitment, we would mold ourselves for ourselves. Our perfection is
in our commitment.
“Stating that you’re not the
most beautiful/intelligent might sound like it’s not a compliment, yeah? But
it’s a realistic base for real love. Acknowledging that my woman isn’t the
best, I’m not looking for the best. I was looking for you and I found you.
There’s no best, there is just someone you choose and see the best in them.
This to me is real love. Not the one that consoles itself in the faux
reality that their partner is the best-looking, most intelligent, most
successful person in the world. That’s disingenuous and doesn’t give room for
love to thrive.
“I love you, Ayanfe. I’m
committed to you. I miss you so much!!! But my love for you is stronger than
distance.”
Despite the backlash from his
post, the relationship coach refused to retract his statement and insisted that
he owes no one an apology.
However, some of the speakers
on the American talk show seemed to understand his point of view.
Hollywood actress, Whoopi
Goldberg who was among the speakers used the opportunity to give some
relationship tips to his fiancee, Arike Adeola.
She said: “JUST KEEP IT CALM,
JUST KNOW THAT HE LOVES YOU, IF YOU DECIDE TO MARRY HIM JUST KNOW HE IS NOT ASKING
YOU TO BE PERFECT BUT HE IS HE IS ASKING YOU TO BE THE WOMAN HE LOVES.”
