And these scars are the leftovers of the trauma they suffered. Upon close observation, the trauma they suffered will manage to have influence on their today’s behaviours. People think and act the way they do because of what they have been through. They may be able to dodge the big bullets that would ruin their life utterly, but thank goodness for most of them don’t look like what they have been through. Yet, there will be some small bullets that are deep lying in their bone of bones that are behind what and what they do what they are doing today.
1. They Don’t Trust
Have you ever seen an adult who prefers to stay independently (no friends, no attachments) regardless of people’s effort to make them sociable? It is because they have lost confidence in people, and the trauma they suffered taught them betrayal in the hard way.
They had expectations back then that was taken away from them by people they loved and trusted. The people that hurt them back then were people they had reposed confidence in. Since those people hurt and betrayed them, they see no reason why they should open their heart for others. Their hearts have been punctured once, twice and thrice, so they are saying ‘No more’. People like this don’t have expectations from people, they are not expecting nothing from no one, and they are attached to nobody. Adults who have suffered trauma are not ready to have deep relationship with people.
2. They Don’t Talk
People like this keep to themselves. They are secretive and always tightlipped. These ones don’t lay bare their heart and would not tell people what is going on in and around them. They think they are alone and no one really cares for them, even though they don’t get to say this, but their behaviour explains this.
Adults that encountered trauma in their childhood prefer to be alone with their thoughts.
3. They Suspect People Easily
They suffer insecurity and suspect people easily. Deep inside them, they are afraid of what people will do to them and won’t leave nothing to chance. They can be very sensitive and would not let things and matters slide which can be very scary. They are expecting shocks from any sides, so they are acting vigilant not to live the poor old life again.
The way they think and interpret words can be very scary and annoying – much more to the shock of the speaker and their friends. Sometimes, if not always, they tend to misinterpret some good actions and think the doers are planning evil for them.
4. They Display Anger
One of the behaviours an adult who went through trauma would exhibit is getting angry at the slightest provocation. They will come at you for every mistakes or unpleasant intentional things you do to them. They think whatever you do (mistake or otherwise) is what you set out to do in the first place.
You could notice that their rage is out of ordinary. It is like this because they don’t want to be bitten twice, and because they want to take revenge of the first bite on whoever and whatever that looks and exhibits the traits of the first painful memory.
5. They Talk Pains
Like guns, the words of their mouth are heavy and always ‘nothing to write home about’. They sound hopeless and helpless and would always what is strange. Through a man’s word, you will know where they were coming from and where they are going. Their words are a reflection of what they have been through and what they believe in, now.
Through their words, you can identify an adult who has suffered trauma at their young age. Pains, regrets and revenge will be all over their words.
