11. Can You Stop Complaining?
Sure, it’s a bit ridiculous to think that just because someone likes us, that means that they have to listen to us complain every moment that we spend together. But when we aren’t complaining at all and are telling our crush or boyfriend something important and he asks, “Can you stop complaining?” Well, that’s not only frustrating but it’s toxic, too.
Boyfriends should listen to their girlfriends. He wants us to listen when he has to get something off his chest, doesn’t he? It should go both ways, even if what we’re talking about is dull to him.
12. Why Do You Hang Out With Her If She’s So Annoying?
We can definitely say that our boyfriend is 100 percent toxic if he says this to us.
We want him to understand that we don’t always agree with how a friend behaves, but we’re not going to break up or cut off the friendship. Sure, it sucks when she’s late to dinner or sends us massive text messages whining about something, but friends let friends do those things sometimes.
We could ask him why he hangs out with certain friends, and he probably wouldn’t want us to.
13. Weddings Are Too Much Work And Money
Another toxic statement that doesn’t even make a ton of sense, really. We could tell our BF that weddings don’t have to cost a lot of money or be that bad at all. We could literally marry someone at City Hall or throw a backyard wedding if we wanted to (and if our relatives weren’t putting lots of pressure on us).
He’s 100 percent toxic when he says something like this because he doesn’t want to see the whole wedding thing from our perspective. Don’t we get so annoyed when someone makes up their mind and won’t listen to reason?!
14. I Wouldn’t Be With You If I Didn’t Want To Be
When a guy says this to us, he’s trying to be reassuring… but the truth is that this is kind of a mean thing to say.
Maybe he’s saying this because we want to get married and he’s putting that talk off even longer. Maybe he’s saying this because it’s been several years so he figures he should say something that seems related to commitment and the future. He could make tons of different excuses, but we don’t want to hear such a toxic statement from our boyfriend. It’s not exactly like he’s saying, “I love you so much that I want to be with you forever so let’s get married.”
15. My Phone Was Dead
The truth is that it’s super rare that someone will tell us that their phone died and it will be totally true. That might happen once in a blue moon. The rest of the time, their phone was fine and they just didn’t feel like texting us back. Which is okay, people need their space. But what’s not okay is the lie.
We can guess that this is another toxic statement. It’s one of the 25 things that he would have to say to us to make us say, “Yup, totally toxic, and not worth our time.”
16. You’re So Cute When You’re Mad
Why are we cute when we’re mad? Because he wants to avoid the argument that is probably about to occur or he doesn’t want to have a serious or emotional discussion? It’s probably both of these things… and it’s 100 percent toxic.
We would be offended if someone told us that we look cute when we’re mad. It just totally disregards our feelings and the serious issue at hand. This is another classic thing that some guys say without thinking and it just never sounds good.
17. Don’t Try To Change Me
When a guy says this to us, maybe we are trying to change him but we have good intentions. Or maybe we’re not trying to change him at all and so he’s being mean-spirited.
A lot of guys automatically assume that girls want to change them and that they can’t dress the same or see their friends or anything like that once they get into a relationship. Of course, none of that is actually true. Maybe we want to be a positive, inspiring force in his life and help him out, so if he says this to us, then he’s toxic and he’s being mean.
18. You’re Turning Into Your Mother
How would we react if our boyfriend told us this? No offense to our mothers because we love them and think that they’re so great… but this is a classic as far as frustrating statements go.
If we’re turning into our moms, it could be an awesome thing because they have really great things about them, so it’s weird that he wouldn’t be able to see that. But he’s probably saying this to hurt our feelings, which puts him in the “100 percent toxic” category.
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19. We Never Have Any Fun
If he told us this, we would want to ask him what he thinks would be fun because we might think that we have been having fun together. Maybe we’re just not on the same page.
This is a toxic statement since it seems like he wants to hurt our feelings or make us feel pretty bad. Maybe he wants to fight about something or is attempting a conversation about the future. Whatever the reason is for this statement, it’s still toxic and it’s still not something that he should say.
